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By Pankaj Jain on Assignment- Cravings
Thats a great blog on leaving unwanted habits. I tried to figure out and introspected on the same. Few that I could note down:
Unwanted Habit 1 : Unnecessary arguments over political ideologies
Cues/ Cravings behind it : TV news/ social media posts/ wats-app conversations
What triggers the habit : Used to respond the moment I see a post/msg from someone to which I don’t agree to and get into a never ending discussion and heated arguments over the same w/o any result obviously to come back again and repeat the arguments and waste – precious time
Ideas to make the cue/
craving invisible : Muted all words that triggered bjp/ congress/ aap/ hindu/ muslim/ modi – Now the profile page/ timeline is absolutely clean and ful lof positive notes/ motivational quotes/ leadership articles/ Planning tools
Unwanted Habit 2: Excess TV / Business news watching
Cues/ Cravings behind it: Get rich quickly, to make quick money!!
What triggers the habit: As TV is mostly on, have a habit of skimming thru the channels, business news, share recommendations, movies, reality tv shows, anything, etc ? :(… Also discussions with colleagues on share-tips!
Ideas to make the cue/
craving invisible: 1) My mother, wife, daughter – all watch tv so I cannot remove the tv from the room, but I can stay away from the room. ?
2) Stopped touching TV remote – this has really helped in reducing TV time
3) Fixed time – won’t watch on laptop, will watch only on TV till 10 am
4) Very limited discussions on money management with friends/ Colleagues
Assignment 4
Making the cue invisible is difficult as people @ home are always drinking coffe/tea.
What I thought is I will make myself invisible during the coffee and tea time.
Making a habit attractive,
I will not have dinner till I develop the right attitude for night prayer.
Making cue disappear
making cue disappear is difficult so I thought I will try to become invisible during coffee/tea time
Making habitnattractive,
I will not have my dinner till I create attitude for night prayer
Peeling off dry skin!! Looks strange but yes I have this unique habit of peeling dry skin of foot which runs in family from 3 generations. But now from this workshop I found the cue and triggers.. Yes it’s whenever mentally am very actively thinking, worrying or anxious and physically inactive. So how to address this is a question mark again!! It’s not self control but a picture of a DIRTY Foot and a picture of a BEAUTIFUL foot on my walls n mobile wall papers.. This works!!. And my annoying habit of Peeling skin is much reduced. “*Soon will vanish*” is my AIM not just hope. . Thank you Habits team..
Assignment 4
1. I want to get rid of my junk food eating habit.
2. On introspection,I realised that craving is for satisfying feeling or inner gratification. But, guilt of eating junk use to drown my happiness.
3. On further thinking, I found out that craving happens during my boring routine day with hyperactive mind. Also, when I hear happy news and noone to share…I feel like nibbling on short eats.
4. I thought of all info until now the program has shed light upon ,and came to this conclusion that I need to immediately make the junk food ‘Not easily accessible’ .
Hence, I have put in cupboard which can be locked.
Secondly, I promised myself to be aware of my craving so that I can divert my attention to some happy habit , like dancing.
Now, whenever I have craving…I dance. I feel very satisfied and eating junk is sidelined.
Practicing this since 2 days and it seems working.
I want to get rid of my thought of feeling tired once I reach home from work which makes all the work including housework and work on my personal spiritual sadhana so boring. I need to be more alert in doing all this with vigour and love.
The cue that I think would be useful is to shower and write down my priority be it my sadhana or my dinner. I have printed and pasted on my table and door inside and try to first complete my clearing A Point meditation before I enter the kitchen.
Superb
I want to get rid of my feeling of lethargy and procrastination.
I have introspected and my mind seems to be the culprit because the moment I reach home, it tells me that after a 8-9 hour work in Office, my body is now tired for anything. I also feel hungry and look for biscuits to eat.
I now tell my mind to think of my priorities and importance of reaching my goal. I keep writing of this to make it a permanent fix in my mind. I am away from sugar and sweets for quite some time but look for bread and biscuits to satisfy the hunger craving. I keep remembering the words of my family members who tell me how harmful bread and biscuits is to my body. I have written in BOLD letters and pasted on my fridge “BREAD AND BISCUITS ARE A NO NO – EAT HEALTHY”
I shower in hot water to remove any tiredness from my body and complete my spiritual work for the evening and eat healthy. This way I am trying to change this procastination and lazy habit.
I never like junk food,neither I eat.
It’s sad, my in laws family including hubby like it n they force me to eat n they become angry when I don’t prepare that junk,oily foods..
one fruit Sharing for entire family is odd to me..I love fruits, vegetables to add…same with tv …the time I found my master in 2003 I never had any interest towards tv ,I prefer not to keep a tv itself… now with in laws from almost 10yrs most of the time the tv is on ..it’s very difficult while the tv sound comes in entire house becoz it’s simply waste of time and the content that comes is useful for nothing,they discourage me even when I read masters books….now I learnt,how to overcome from these..i slowly detached..
I eat fruits myself when I am alone, sorry i can’t see another choice…
I developed interest in phone,I learnt putting headphones to listen in a different room all motivational n masters talks into my phone from dvds..still I get opposition for even the talks…iam praying master I get a good environment very soon to exercise my innate interests,pls pray for me..
My question is how to be with the people who discourage the good qualities.
I get angry and sadness for these ,as I said earlier I am still working on to be stable among these things ..
Any one interested to get the motivational talks and masters talks into the phone as audio ,you can contact me I can send them from what’s app.
My craving is to work for master,live for master and die for master..
1) After 9:15 pm universal prayer, I generally talk to my sister n waste my time. I get too sleepy at the time of my night prayer because of this.
So for this I will not sleep in afternoon n remind myself before universal Prayer, get my diary n pen , book near me. So that we won’t strt any conversation.
2) chew my food properly and sit straight. I alway remind myself during eating my food.
Ans Q.1- My unwanted habits to get rid of —
1) Reading newspaper or watching TV while taking food.
2) Can’t say NO to non-profit deals. I knows that this deal in future will give me trouble,but hesitate to refuse.
Ans Q .2,3,4– After introspection,I find out the reason that being alone,I developed this habit. So now I take breakfast and food with my maids. I share with them and we enjoyed to eat together.
My nature becomes Shy and Not much dominating ,so people use my name and earn lots of money which seems to be obstacle in my progress both in material and spiritual life.
Since joining this group,I have courage and confidence to fight against them. Trying to change thought patterns and implementation of it today by saying NO to one hospital. Master is with me all the time.
1. I have habit of too much of social media whenever I am free.
2. To make it invisible I uninstalled some of the social media from my phone.
3 however I am trying to fill this gap by adding some good habit like book reading. I am not yet successful
Great sharing, Suggestion is to make habit of reading 1 page/ paragraph only per day for the next 21 days. After 21 days see its imapact.
Unwanted habits I want to get rid of:
1. I want get rid of my laziness.
2. I keep thinking whether I can avoid it.
3. On further thinking I am craving for coming out of my boring routine habits. Whatever I do I should do with a happy mind.
4. Making this cue invisible is difficult. But I want try this in a positive way. Make my habit attractive in my household routine as well as in my spiritual sadhana.
I wanted to get rid of over thinking.
The cue behind it is immediate solution or non acceptance, as per my introspection.
What triggers it is fear, being ideal & lazy.
Taking action & being in CR is what will help the cue invisible.
This is easy said than done. Still trying, get carried away with daily routine.
1. I want get rid of my laziness.
2. I keep thinking whether I can avoid it.
3. On further thinking I am craving for coming out of my boring routine habits. Whatever I do I should do with a happy mind.
4. Making this cue invisible is difficult. But I want try this in a positive way. Make my habit attractive in my household routine as well as in my spiritual sadhana.
Assignment 4
1.
जब मैं अपनी आदतों के बारे में सोचता हूं तो लगता है, कि जैसे कई आदतें हैं जिन्हें मुझे बदलना है,
a) मैं सोचता बहुत ज्यादा हूं, किसी कि भी बातों को दिल पर ले लेता हूं।
b) काम अगले समय के लिए टालना
c) एडल्ट साइट्स देखना
2.
i) इनमे से पहली आदत के लिए जो cue नजर आती है वह है उस बात को खुद के लिए मान लेना, उस पर बार बार सोचना
ii)दूसरी के लिए cue नजर आती है, उस काम के पूरे होने ना होने की अनिश्चितता , ना होने के परिणाम का भय
iii)तीसरी के लिए, जब मैं पत्नी के व्यवहार से बेहद तनाव में होता हूं तब mind को रिलैक्स करने के लिए करता हूं
3.
अब इनमें से सभी आदतों में एक बात कॉमन महसूस कर पा रहा हूं, वह है तनाव और उससे उत्पन्न जीवन के प्रति विरक्तता।
4.
अब बात आती है cue को invisible करने की, तो तनाव को तो इनविजिबल नहीं किया जा सकता अन्य जो उपाय मुझे समझ आते हैं वह है
खुद को अधिकतम व्यस्त रखने की कोशिश करूंगा, या घर से बाहर रहने की, क्योंकि अधिकतर बातें तभी होती हैं जब पत्नी से व्यर्थ की बहस होती है, जब हम आमने – सामने ही नहीं होंगे तो ना बहस होगी ना ही तनाव, व्यस्त रहूंगा तो सारे कार्य भी समय पर कर सकूंगा। तनाव नहीं होगा तो उसे दूर करने के को प्रयत्न करता हूं वह भी नहीं करना पड़ेंगे।
Unwanted habits are 1. Watching TV more time, mostly listening to TV while doing household work. 2. Eating processed food or biscuits.
Cravings or cue for those are, I will be alone in house more days, feeling alone.coming to food feeling tired, after doing work, I will pick biscuits.
Lonliness and boredom are triggers. If my husband is in home I won’t watch TV more.
Iam sitting in other room to make TV invisible. Iam listening to videos or audios in phone. Reading books.
Iam keeping biscuits or packaged food in a closed container to make them invisible. Iam keeping fruits on table to make visible.
My son studies in class XII and he has become a little careless nowadays to study. Because of which I ask him to study hard and score good marks.
making cue disappear is difficult so I thought I will try to sit with him and help him in his studies,Instead of scolding him.So that he can focus more on studying
Pahle me bahut attractive hoti thi food pe. Phone me dekhti thi fr bi. Samne hota h to bi ho hi jati hu. Lekin ab me isi pe work kar rhi hu. To ab muje kuch b feel nahi hora ki muje khana chaiy ya kya. Kuch din mene is pe work kiya now I’m not craving. Ab to dekh liya bs ignore. Or mene real me bi work kiya ye or hua bi.. Overeating ki bi habit dhire dhire nikal rahi h
Phone ki bi habit ab dhire dhire kam ho gai. Or ab phn ki वज़ह se Meditation miss nhi hota. Karna he to karna he. I have to complete my morng task. Then only I can use my phone. To ab isi pe work ??.
Maintaining diary also. Ab roj maintain hoti he. Khud ko Introspect bi karti hu now how I’m feeling.
1) I could not incorporate regular and bit intense daily exercise routine especially during these past 6-8 months.
2) The reason to this is, I like to go to gym/Yoga studios where the environment is encouraging. These days I don’t want to go because of mask mandatory. I cannot do exercises by wearing mask as I don’t feel comfortable.
3) I am not able to do enough Yoga postures at my apartment because, I have a TV turned on one side (this is because as I live by myself, maybe I like some voice on the background. But because of this, my energies are divided and not able to give a full attention to the Yoga practice at home)
4) I will workout by playing some good music on the background instead of TV. Once my attention and focus are towards one thing then I will be able to maintain regularity. I have to focus on workouts doing at home only, so that I can do even in the hot summers and harsh winters.
In Gratitude,
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Assignment – 4
1. I want to accept the Criticism for my own evolution
2. I introspect on it
a.Take whatever is good from it.
b. No fault from my side honestly, just ignore such comments.
3. Cue whenever such incidents happen earlier, my outside behaviour was alright but inside it was annoying and disturbing my mood which was lowering my energy level.
This week I tried out differently for such triggers
Solution : I used to accept it whole heartedly, during such times I connected to inner master it changed the shift in the energy level and maintained inner happiness.
I want to get rid of reacting to criticism, which makes me feel low or sad or angry.The cue is reacting to it instantly. When I introspect about the trigger which is causing me to react, I felt I’m not ready to accept the other person perspective about me and trying to validate about it.
So I’m trying to pause for that moment and be open about the other person’s perspective by accepting it. And also started working on myself continuously by taking the criticism seriously in a right way, thus making efforts to mould myself and build good character.
Thats a great blog on leaving unwanted habits. I tried to figure out and introspected on the same. Few that I could note down:
Unwanted Habit 1 : Unnecessary arguments over political ideologies
Cues/ Cravings behind it : TV news/ social media posts/ wats-app conversations
What triggers the habit : Used to respond the moment I see a post/msg from someone to which I don’t agree to and get into a never ending discussion and heated arguments over the same w/o any result obviously to come back again and repeat the arguments and waste – precious time
Ideas to make the cue/
craving invisible : Muted all words that triggered bjp/ congress/ aap/ hindu/ muslim/ modi – Now the profile page/ timeline is absolutely clean and ful lof positive notes/ motivational quotes/ leadership articles/ Planning tools
Unwanted Habit 2 : Excess TV / Business news watching
Cues/ Cravings behind it : Get rich quickly, to make quick money!!
What triggers the habit : As TV is mostly on, have a habit of skimming thru the channels, business news, share recommendations, movies, reality tv shows, anything etc etc 🙁 :(… Also discussions with colleagues on share-tips!
Ideas to make the cue/
craving invisible : 1) My mother, wife, daughter – all watch tv so I cannot remove tv from room, but I can stay away from the room. 🙂
2) Stopped touching TV remote – this has really helped in reducing TV time
3) Fixed time – wont watch on laptop, will watch only on TV till 10am
4) Very limited discussions on money management with friends/ Colleagues
Assignment – 4
1. I want to accept the Criticism for my own evolution
2. I introspect on it
a.Take whatever is good from it.
b. No fault from my side honestly, just ignore such comments.
3. Cue whenever such incidents happen earlier, my outside behaviour was alright but inside it was annoying and disturbing my mood which was lowering my energy level.
This week I tried out differently for such triggers
Solution : I accepted it whole heartedly, also I connected to inner master it changed the shift in the energy level and maintained inner happiness.
1. I want to accept the Criticism for my own evolution
2. I introspect on it
a.Take whatever is good from it.
b. No fault from my side honestly, just ignore such comments.
3. Cue whenever such incidents happen earlier, my outside behaviour was alright but inside it was annoying and disturbing my mood which was lowering my energy level.
This week I tried out differently for such triggers
Solution : I accepted it whole heartedly, also I connected to inner master it changed the shift in the energy level and maintained inner happiness.
Morning exercise started and being regular.
Criticism got reduced by making visible placard non judgmental.
Daily whisper reading after meditation
Overeating reduced by giving frequent auto suggestions.
Identified the unwanted habit of watching TV while having dinner.
Cues behind the habit were; to unwind from tiredness due to day’s activities, watching TV as a diversion to avoid interacting with other family members.
The switched-on TV in the drawing-room within the field of view from my regular seat at the dinner table, triggers the habit.
The cue was made invisible by changing my seat at the dinner table such that the tv, is at my back. Problem solved. Switching off the TV is another option, but some family members like the TV to remain on, tuned to some music channel, running in the background.
The habit of not watching tv while having dinner has enabled me to eat food in constant remembrance, opportunity to interact with family members, and appreciate food prepared with a lot of efforts.
After attending habbit workshop I m making constant effort to read n listen to missions content on YouTube. I have become more n more curious towards mission n I m adapting what ever little I can cope up in my routine. Example constant remember ance of master, feeling of surrender to master, adapting as far as possible ten Maxim’s, adapting to mediation, cleaning, 9 o clock prayer etc etc in my case I m becoming stronger by putting everything to Master feet n try to do my best.
This platform makes us know the new ideas of our fellow abhyasi I m happy ?
I am always alert of my food intake, sugary items are morning coffee and evening tea that’s all. Junk is almost nil except soft drinks which are to be avoided. so I will stop buying them hereafter.
I did as prescribed – writing all those which are hidden inside and while burning the paper I am like burning all those things. In future if the same event arises, I have to re-check whether this process helps or not.